A while ago while at Touro LA, some classmates and I took a class where we researched information and then discussed some ways to help Jewish youth.
The situations we studied were for example,
One situation is where the home environment might Not be enjoyable. They just feel the strictness of do's and don'ts, but they don't see the beauty in their heritage, and they look for something different. To improve this, we need to add some warmth and joy to the environment, so they want to continue it when on their own.
There's also those that feel intellectually frustrated if their questions are not answered. For this, we should take the time to talk to them and find information to help them strengthen their knowledge and emunah
Another scenario is when some individuals go to college and find out things that go against what they learned. If they don't have a strong foundation, this can hurt them. One of my classmates suggested that before this person goes to college, they should be told beforehand what they might encounter, for example, "They believe in evolution where.....but we don't because....."
There are also teens that get turned off when they see a bad example of someone who should know better, and yet acts poorly. Obviously, we all make mistakes, but it still gives them a negative impression, which is why we need to be careful with middos and behavior.
Something that a friend mentioned to me recently is that Some students have a hard time keeping up with the learning. For example, they might not be ready to learn Gemorah yet, and need some time learning something else before that. And so they should given something that's more on their level so they can thrive.
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Well I hope this message helps. Of course, there are plenty of other scenarios that also occur. I know that this message is easier said than done. It takes time, effort, patience and prayer. May Hashem help our good efforts succeed in making a good impact
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Showing posts with label Torah. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Torah. Show all posts
Monday, May 23, 2011
Tuesday, April 05, 2011
Use words wisley
Nowadays, we live in a world where people just say whatever they want and don't really care how it effects people. I think that Shimiras ha lashon(guarding speech) was made for this generation. When someone speaks very rudely about someone, who they think is silly or weird , that's sad. We shouldn't stoop to the level of making fun of people, or Unnecessarily criticizing someone. While we might think that 'so and so' is silly or weird, we should use discipline and self control.
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Of course, sometimes we need to say something about someone if it is for a constructive purpose like protecting people, then you go talk to someone who can help fix the situation. Otherwise, talking rudely or making fun of someone is just wrong. We should remember that Lashon hara and hurtful words have consequences both physically and spiritually, where as shimiras halason brings blessing. We wonder where Moshiach is. It's up to us to help bring it closer with our effort of unity, we can each make a difference
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Of course, sometimes we need to say something about someone if it is for a constructive purpose like protecting people, then you go talk to someone who can help fix the situation. Otherwise, talking rudely or making fun of someone is just wrong. We should remember that Lashon hara and hurtful words have consequences both physically and spiritually, where as shimiras halason brings blessing. We wonder where Moshiach is. It's up to us to help bring it closer with our effort of unity, we can each make a difference
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Two halves of a whole
man and woman, two halves of a whole.
so different and yet also similar.
Both with a different important role,
each one serving Hashem(G-d)
They find each other and
come together in marriage
becoming one soul again.
The Shabbos candles shine bright as
She brings in the shabbos with a prayer,
and brings light to the world.
He makes the kiddish blessing over the wine,
and the world is elevated.
Their relationship is rejuvenated with the
mitzvah of family purity and mikvah, and
bring blessing to the home.
They share in the reward of
his Torah learning.
Her modest clothes,
bring out her inner beauty.
she and him raise the next generation
as they pass their heritage down
to their children and help them grow.
Two people, one soul
fulfilling their mission
For candle lighting articles, the kiddush blessing and other info
http://www.aish.com/sh/
On family purity and mikvah
http://www.askmoses.com/article.html?h=675&o=71
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so different and yet also similar.
Both with a different important role,
each one serving Hashem(G-d)
They find each other and
come together in marriage
becoming one soul again.
The Shabbos candles shine bright as
She brings in the shabbos with a prayer,
and brings light to the world.
He makes the kiddish blessing over the wine,
and the world is elevated.
Their relationship is rejuvenated with the
mitzvah of family purity and mikvah, and
bring blessing to the home.
They share in the reward of
his Torah learning.
Her modest clothes,
bring out her inner beauty.
she and him raise the next generation
as they pass their heritage down
to their children and help them grow.
Two people, one soul
fulfilling their mission
For candle lighting articles, the kiddush blessing and other info
http://www.aish.com/sh/
On family purity and mikvah
http://www.askmoses.com/article.html?h=675&o=71
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Sunday, September 12, 2010
Peace talks won't do it
It's interesting how there are peacetalks with different politicians, and afterwards there's Parshat Haazinu which mentions something about this, I'll say afterwards.
This Parsha mentions how we went astray, and afterwards we see the effect of that. It's like when a kid goes to wild party and gets waisted on beer and stuff, and then they face the consequences. We want to do whatever and it's fun for awhile, but then we need to face the music. Just like our parents give us instructions for our benefit, so too, Hashem gives us instructions for our benefit. - Remember that besides feeding our body, we also need to feed our soul and keep it nourished and strong.
This parsha speaks also about how we trust in those that can't give us peace and redemption. But to no avail. People try, but can't seem to bring about peace. Peace will come when we realize that Only Hashem can give us peace and redemption. The roadmap is right here. While Some people know this Baruch Hashem, there are many who don't. And so we should take a lesson from this and come together and say 'Hashem it is You who does everything' Lets turn to Him and may we joyfully be redeemed soon
on a sidenote, unity is also factor to help us and this site http://shabbat.com/ helps by pairing a guest and a host for Shabbos meals and baruch Hashem joining Jews together
Sunday, August 01, 2010
Rights vs Obligation
Sometimes people focus a lot on their rights, like the right to say what they want. However, few think about their obligations, like to not hurt a friend with their words. The problem is when a person cares more about him/herself than about the other. Of course, there are times when we need to say something about someone inorder to protect others. And so there are Jewish rules for how to do it. - But if the negative info is not important, then it's not necessary to mention.
It's very hard to keep away from gossip sometimes, but when we make an effort, we earn tremendous blessings.
Another thing is when we are in shul(synagogue). The point of shul is to daven(pray).
Some people go there to do just that, daven, and afterwards go eat and smooze with others.
Some women however, feel that they want more. They want to stand in front of the congragation, read from the Torah Scroll and lead the prayers. They feel it's their right.
But that's not what shul is about. Shul is not about doing what you want. Shul is about doing what G-d wants. Therefore, in shul, we women should stick to just standing with our fellow Jews and praying together.
There are plenty of other mitzvahs outside of synagogue, like lighting Shabbos candles in our home before sun-down. Helping the community. Going to the mikva(ritual bath) once a month. And passing down our faith to the next generation, and so on
On a side note, prayer is for everone's benefit. It helps us to reflect on ourselves, seek Hashem for assistance, and be grateful for what we have.
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Sunday, June 20, 2010
Successfully handing our faith
Firstly, how do you like my new design??
Okay, Tips for handing down our heritage and faith
In regards to chinuch, many are mainly taught just what to do when practicing, but don't really understand or feel it inside. We need to know why to do it, so it's meaningful. For example, besides because it's our obligation, it's also food for our soul. It connects us to Ha-shem and also brings light to the world.
Both reverence and love for G-d are important. If we are a good example of both reverence and love of G-d, it'll encourage others to keep the message.
I heard awhile ago a good explanation of how awe should be taught. For example, we see how precious our spouse is, and we are in awe of them. We don't want to hurt the relationship because there's consequences and we disconnect. - Of course, since we are human, we make mistakes sometimes. However, we have the chance to get back up and go forward. Hashem forgives and brings us back if we make the effort.
Love of G-d and Torah should be taught by showing the beauty and joy. Make Shabbos very special with zemiros and quality time together. Inspire youth to pray from the heart and appreciate our blessings. And when we learn, feel that G-d is speaking to us -
Okay, Tips for handing down our heritage and faith
In regards to chinuch, many are mainly taught just what to do when practicing, but don't really understand or feel it inside. We need to know why to do it, so it's meaningful. For example, besides because it's our obligation, it's also food for our soul. It connects us to Ha-shem and also brings light to the world.
Both reverence and love for G-d are important. If we are a good example of both reverence and love of G-d, it'll encourage others to keep the message.
I heard awhile ago a good explanation of how awe should be taught. For example, we see how precious our spouse is, and we are in awe of them. We don't want to hurt the relationship because there's consequences and we disconnect. - Of course, since we are human, we make mistakes sometimes. However, we have the chance to get back up and go forward. Hashem forgives and brings us back if we make the effort.
Love of G-d and Torah should be taught by showing the beauty and joy. Make Shabbos very special with zemiros and quality time together. Inspire youth to pray from the heart and appreciate our blessings. And when we learn, feel that G-d is speaking to us -
Help them to feel that Hashem is always there providing for us. And when we have challenges, we should trust it's for the best, and He will help us through it
Plus, encourage their questions, and search for information together in order to strengthen emunah. I took a class in which we really delve deep into the Chumash, and learned a lot that I didn't know. This is great for any study. Many who do this find it very intellectually stimulating.
If parents and teachers are good examples of middos, wisdom, caring, and emunah, and give youth what they need both emotionally and intellectually, then the youth will internalize it and want to keep it with them
Plus, encourage their questions, and search for information together in order to strengthen emunah. I took a class in which we really delve deep into the Chumash, and learned a lot that I didn't know. This is great for any study. Many who do this find it very intellectually stimulating.
If parents and teachers are good examples of middos, wisdom, caring, and emunah, and give youth what they need both emotionally and intellectually, then the youth will internalize it and want to keep it with them
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
LETS PUT SOME JOY IN IT tip for parents and teachers
On chinuch
Some times, if children are just told what to do but are not shown the beauty in it, then it could be hard to feel the joy of the mitzvos. My tip is that we should help children to enjoy practicing by showing them the beauty and joy, instead of just saying what to do. In order for them to continue it, they need to want to.
If the kid(like a teen) wants to do something that's not the best idea, explain to them why it's not such a good idea, instead of just no. And let them make small decisions, so they understand for themself. They might find you are right. -- They need both structure and space.
This family is a good example of bringing out the joy in Shabbos;
We don't need to do exactly the same(having so many guests) but we can take a lesson and incorporate the beauty of Shabbos in our lives
http://themachliscampaign.com/about2.php
Some times, if children are just told what to do but are not shown the beauty in it, then it could be hard to feel the joy of the mitzvos. My tip is that we should help children to enjoy practicing by showing them the beauty and joy, instead of just saying what to do. In order for them to continue it, they need to want to.
If the kid(like a teen) wants to do something that's not the best idea, explain to them why it's not such a good idea, instead of just no. And let them make small decisions, so they understand for themself. They might find you are right. -- They need both structure and space.
This family is a good example of bringing out the joy in Shabbos;
We don't need to do exactly the same(having so many guests) but we can take a lesson and incorporate the beauty of Shabbos in our lives
http://themachliscampaign.com/about2.php
Sunday, January 17, 2010
Tikun
Each of us can do so much to help the world we're in. It can be in a physical way like helping someone in some way, or being a good friend etc.
Or it can be spiritual like learning (for growth), Or us Jews lighting Shabbos candles before sun-down and other mitzvos, which brings positive spiritual energy.
We especially need to do all we can to help nowadays. - Every mitzvah helps, both between people like tzedaka or improving our character traits. And between person and G-d, like praying, keeping Shabbos and other mitzvos. What we do can make a difference and we can help to make a good impact
We should remember to keep looking towards the light down the road
Or it can be spiritual like learning (for growth), Or us Jews lighting Shabbos candles before sun-down and other mitzvos, which brings positive spiritual energy.
We especially need to do all we can to help nowadays. - Every mitzvah helps, both between people like tzedaka or improving our character traits. And between person and G-d, like praying, keeping Shabbos and other mitzvos. What we do can make a difference and we can help to make a good impact
We should remember to keep looking towards the light down the road
Monday, October 05, 2009
Importance of knowing why
Many are taught what to do in regards to our tradition, and we know different information about it. - Sometimes we feel it inside, and other times we don't. What helps us to continue it is to know 'why', then we understand the importance of doing what we are taught. Here's the basics to help encourage us
Energy and spreading light
First, lets look what happens with our actions and behaviors. We know our actions have an impact on the world. But besides having a physical impact, they also have a spiritual impact, in which we either bring down good or bad energy, depending on whether we do mitzvos or aveiros. It is our choice what we do. Everyone does both of them. We all have ups and downs. What people need to do is pause and think about what effect a certain action might have, whether the action is between person and person, or one between person and G-d. For example, giving to others what they need, and lighting Shabbat candles before sun-down, bring light and blessing. But gossiping Unnecessarily about So and so brings negative energy. There are times when we need to say something about someone, but there are rules how to do it. Each mitzvah teaches us something important.
Nourishment
Besides that, there's our neshama(soul). Our neshama needs food just like our body. Thus we have Torah and mitzvos. It's our source of nourishment and connects us to Hashem. Each bit of learning and practicing brings us closer to Him. Where as, aveiros pull us away. We might not feel inspired sometimes, and it might just feel like rituals. That's why it helps to learn the meaning of a mitzvah, and try to do the mitzvah with Joy. With continuous effort, personal prayer, and time, the feeling inside will grow. And if you need to, seek guidence from someone to help along the way. Remember, every effort counts. Sometimes, we have challenges in life. But these are to help us grow. Just like excersize can be hard but makes us strong, so too challenges in life make us stronger. This way we can receive more Divine light as Rabbi Arush teaches in "The Garden of Emunah"
Purpose
Finally, we should remember that it is our obligation to uphold the laws, traditions, ethics and values that we Jews are meant to keep, ever since that everlasting promise at Mount Sinai, and therefore be the holy nation that we should be. It is for our benefit, the Torah and mitzvos, which Hashem(G-d) gave us to bring light to the world and nourish our soul and connect to G-d. Therefore we should do it with JOY
If you want more info you can ask and read here or ask someone in person
Energy and spreading light
First, lets look what happens with our actions and behaviors. We know our actions have an impact on the world. But besides having a physical impact, they also have a spiritual impact, in which we either bring down good or bad energy, depending on whether we do mitzvos or aveiros. It is our choice what we do. Everyone does both of them. We all have ups and downs. What people need to do is pause and think about what effect a certain action might have, whether the action is between person and person, or one between person and G-d. For example, giving to others what they need, and lighting Shabbat candles before sun-down, bring light and blessing. But gossiping Unnecessarily about So and so brings negative energy. There are times when we need to say something about someone, but there are rules how to do it. Each mitzvah teaches us something important.
Nourishment
Besides that, there's our neshama(soul). Our neshama needs food just like our body. Thus we have Torah and mitzvos. It's our source of nourishment and connects us to Hashem. Each bit of learning and practicing brings us closer to Him. Where as, aveiros pull us away. We might not feel inspired sometimes, and it might just feel like rituals. That's why it helps to learn the meaning of a mitzvah, and try to do the mitzvah with Joy. With continuous effort, personal prayer, and time, the feeling inside will grow. And if you need to, seek guidence from someone to help along the way. Remember, every effort counts. Sometimes, we have challenges in life. But these are to help us grow. Just like excersize can be hard but makes us strong, so too challenges in life make us stronger. This way we can receive more Divine light as Rabbi Arush teaches in "The Garden of Emunah"
Purpose
Finally, we should remember that it is our obligation to uphold the laws, traditions, ethics and values that we Jews are meant to keep, ever since that everlasting promise at Mount Sinai, and therefore be the holy nation that we should be. It is for our benefit, the Torah and mitzvos, which Hashem(G-d) gave us to bring light to the world and nourish our soul and connect to G-d. Therefore we should do it with JOY
If you want more info you can ask and read here or ask someone in person
Tuesday, September 08, 2009
Foundation
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Two trees
One of them had thin roots
and was easily impacted by
the wind.
The other one had a strong
foundation and stood strong.
The wind had very little impact.
In life, it is very important that we have a strong foundation. Some of us are given this and some are of us are not, sadly. However, we can try to build it up by seeking a supportive mentor to ask questions to, or receive advice. Or go about it ourself and find information to strengthen our emunah and connection.
When one doesn't have this strong base, then any "wind" that comes their way, for example, something upsetting, might make them fall. However, with a good foundation, the person stays up, even when there's a lot of 'wind', their basic knowledge and belief remains intact. This is why it's important for parents and teachers to give this to children.
In a recent article, someone mentioned that it's not enough that we have an external belief, inwhich we believe because that's how we're taught. We need to make it our own by thinking about it and comming to our own conclusion about the truth of Torah. And educators should accept questions and give answers in order to help strengthen emunah.
Lets keep striving to search, think, learn diff things and grow
here are some good links to help us with our spir growth
This site has many different topics to pick from
The Shmuz
And the forum where you can discuss things
Click here
Another site with many great topics
Naaleh
And their discussion forum
Click here
Two trees
One of them had thin roots
and was easily impacted by
the wind.
The other one had a strong
foundation and stood strong.
The wind had very little impact.
In life, it is very important that we have a strong foundation. Some of us are given this and some are of us are not, sadly. However, we can try to build it up by seeking a supportive mentor to ask questions to, or receive advice. Or go about it ourself and find information to strengthen our emunah and connection.
When one doesn't have this strong base, then any "wind" that comes their way, for example, something upsetting, might make them fall. However, with a good foundation, the person stays up, even when there's a lot of 'wind', their basic knowledge and belief remains intact. This is why it's important for parents and teachers to give this to children.
In a recent article, someone mentioned that it's not enough that we have an external belief, inwhich we believe because that's how we're taught. We need to make it our own by thinking about it and comming to our own conclusion about the truth of Torah. And educators should accept questions and give answers in order to help strengthen emunah.
Lets keep striving to search, think, learn diff things and grow
here are some good links to help us with our spir growth
This site has many different topics to pick from
The Shmuz
And the forum where you can discuss things
Click here
Another site with many great topics
Naaleh
And their discussion forum
Click here
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Be careful
I was reading something and the person made a good point in regards to actions and consequences. We should each try to be careful with our actions, and if we do something wrong, we should take responsibility for it.
We learn in diff sources like Pirkei Avos and Missilas Yesharim about being cautious and staying away from bad activities that will cause us trouble.
Sometimes, the evil inclination tries to tempt us and make us mess up. But we can and should try to overcome it. This way we improve in our self growth and become better than before and move forward.
Also, I feel that just like we want others to be understanding of us and that we're just human, we should also be understanding of others, they're just human too. However, we still need to pause and think clearly about what we are about to do and what the consequences might be. - Sometimes, we might become confused because when we want something, the evil inclination helps to justify it. There's a story I heard from a lecturer about a soldier in the desert who thought he saw water, but it was just sand. His friend tells him, if you see the sun in it, then it's water. Sure enough, there was no reflecting sun. So too, we should ask ourselves if this activity we're thinking of has Hashem's reflection in it. If it doesn't, then it's not a good idea.
We learn in diff sources like Pirkei Avos and Missilas Yesharim about being cautious and staying away from bad activities that will cause us trouble.
Sometimes, the evil inclination tries to tempt us and make us mess up. But we can and should try to overcome it. This way we improve in our self growth and become better than before and move forward.
Also, I feel that just like we want others to be understanding of us and that we're just human, we should also be understanding of others, they're just human too. However, we still need to pause and think clearly about what we are about to do and what the consequences might be. - Sometimes, we might become confused because when we want something, the evil inclination helps to justify it. There's a story I heard from a lecturer about a soldier in the desert who thought he saw water, but it was just sand. His friend tells him, if you see the sun in it, then it's water. Sure enough, there was no reflecting sun. So too, we should ask ourselves if this activity we're thinking of has Hashem's reflection in it. If it doesn't, then it's not a good idea.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Awe and Love
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I was listening to a lecture and the speaker mentioned about awe and love. He said that Yiras Hashem(fear of G-d) does not mean terror. The word yira is connected to the word ro'eh(see)
For example, in a relationship, a person should see the preciousness of the other and respect the other person. From there, the person goes on to work on love. Respect motivates us to notice the other and honor them; we don't dream of hurting the relationship we have. - Love motivates us to be close to them -
So too, during this time, we should work on noticing Hashem in our life who gives us both pleasent things and challenges, which we see in retrospect is for the best. And we should work on respecting Him and the people around us. Plus, we should be aware that when we do something wrong, we hurt the relationship, which in turn makes us grow apart from each other. However, it can be mended and healed if we put in the effort to do so. It's best of course, to try not to mess up, but of course it's happens b/c we're human, and so there's teshuva.
Once we have respect for the other, we buid the love
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Please also read below about strengthening kavana and the connection
I was listening to a lecture and the speaker mentioned about awe and love. He said that Yiras Hashem(fear of G-d) does not mean terror. The word yira is connected to the word ro'eh(see)
For example, in a relationship, a person should see the preciousness of the other and respect the other person. From there, the person goes on to work on love. Respect motivates us to notice the other and honor them; we don't dream of hurting the relationship we have. - Love motivates us to be close to them -
So too, during this time, we should work on noticing Hashem in our life who gives us both pleasent things and challenges, which we see in retrospect is for the best. And we should work on respecting Him and the people around us. Plus, we should be aware that when we do something wrong, we hurt the relationship, which in turn makes us grow apart from each other. However, it can be mended and healed if we put in the effort to do so. It's best of course, to try not to mess up, but of course it's happens b/c we're human, and so there's teshuva.
Once we have respect for the other, we buid the love
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Please also read below about strengthening kavana and the connection
Tuesday, August 04, 2009
On the purpose and the meaning of...
I'm putting this with my earlier posts
Anyway in regards to modesty, it can be hard for many to keep hearing in the communtity about tznius this and tznius that, and you feel like you want people to talk about something else, a different topic. - Plus, it's hard for some to be limited in clothing options and behaviors.
At first, this mitzva looks very small compared to other things we need to do. But spiritually, it's just as important as shabbos and good middos(traits) and keeping kosher. - With good middos, we understand the importance because we see the impact it has all around. However with spir things like shabbos and tznius etc, it's difficult to see the impact since it's spiritual. Maybe people wouldn't have such a hard time with tznuis if it wasn't mentioned so much, and there weren't so many restrictions in certain places. I feel, there should be a balance, like for ex. when I saw a song and dance performance for women only, and they had a lot of beautiful dancing.
What's so important about this mitzvah? The importance is to protect our holiness that's within by covering ourselves, like puting a baseball card in a case, or covering a precious Torah scroll. Of course, being tznius is just one way to keep ourself and our home holy. There are other things we need to do as well, for example, family purity and mikva, and make an effort(both spouses) to keep a peaceful home by communicating calmly, and so on.
Being tznius can actually be a beautiful thing because then people focus on our inner beauty and what's in our mind and heart, instead of only our body; Think of it like this, we are children of the King and should look the part by dressing modestly. There are plenty of clothes out there that are both modest and stylish at the same time. Besides this, we also need to act appropriately, so our wisdom and other good traits shine through.
Men too should also be modest. I spoke to someone once who mentioned that he use to wear whatever. And then he went with a friend to a traffic court to help him with something, and they both wore nice clothes. Then he realized that if he chooses to wear nice clothes in front of a human judge, how much more so should he when he davens before Hashem.
While it might be hard for some, we just need to make sure that our body, elbows and knees are covered, and that it’s not so tight that our form shows. As for head coverings, there’s many choices. - I prefer a hat or tichel or scarf when I marry because a wig looks too real, and I feel misses the point. Although, I would combine a hat with a wig. :)
In general, the many mitzvos we Jews have, both the ones b/t person & person, and the ones b/t person and G-d, help us to be holy, connect to G-d, and spread light throughout the world.
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Anyway in regards to modesty, it can be hard for many to keep hearing in the communtity about tznius this and tznius that, and you feel like you want people to talk about something else, a different topic. - Plus, it's hard for some to be limited in clothing options and behaviors.
At first, this mitzva looks very small compared to other things we need to do. But spiritually, it's just as important as shabbos and good middos(traits) and keeping kosher. - With good middos, we understand the importance because we see the impact it has all around. However with spir things like shabbos and tznius etc, it's difficult to see the impact since it's spiritual. Maybe people wouldn't have such a hard time with tznuis if it wasn't mentioned so much, and there weren't so many restrictions in certain places. I feel, there should be a balance, like for ex. when I saw a song and dance performance for women only, and they had a lot of beautiful dancing.
What's so important about this mitzvah? The importance is to protect our holiness that's within by covering ourselves, like puting a baseball card in a case, or covering a precious Torah scroll. Of course, being tznius is just one way to keep ourself and our home holy. There are other things we need to do as well, for example, family purity and mikva, and make an effort(both spouses) to keep a peaceful home by communicating calmly, and so on.
Being tznius can actually be a beautiful thing because then people focus on our inner beauty and what's in our mind and heart, instead of only our body; Think of it like this, we are children of the King and should look the part by dressing modestly. There are plenty of clothes out there that are both modest and stylish at the same time. Besides this, we also need to act appropriately, so our wisdom and other good traits shine through.
Men too should also be modest. I spoke to someone once who mentioned that he use to wear whatever. And then he went with a friend to a traffic court to help him with something, and they both wore nice clothes. Then he realized that if he chooses to wear nice clothes in front of a human judge, how much more so should he when he davens before Hashem.
While it might be hard for some, we just need to make sure that our body, elbows and knees are covered, and that it’s not so tight that our form shows. As for head coverings, there’s many choices. - I prefer a hat or tichel or scarf when I marry because a wig looks too real, and I feel misses the point. Although, I would combine a hat with a wig. :)
In general, the many mitzvos we Jews have, both the ones b/t person & person, and the ones b/t person and G-d, help us to be holy, connect to G-d, and spread light throughout the world.
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Thursday, July 16, 2009
Using time wisley
Some might have already heard this from others. But it's good to remember.
While listening to a certain lecture online, the speaker made a good point about why we count up during sefiras haomer and not down. I would have mentioned this message back then, but I only recently watched it. Anyway, he said that we count up and not down because when you count down, those days in between are in the way, and it feels like a long time until you reach that special day. However, during the omer, each day counts, and we are suppose to use each day as a chance to grow. We count up, taking one step, and then two steps and three. On the 48th day we are 48 steps closer toward Shavous.
It's like a student waiting to graduate. They can either count down the days until they're done with school, and feel anxious, and just want to fast forward to that day. Or they can take the opportunity to use this time wisely as they come closer to that day.
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While listening to a certain lecture online, the speaker made a good point about why we count up during sefiras haomer and not down. I would have mentioned this message back then, but I only recently watched it. Anyway, he said that we count up and not down because when you count down, those days in between are in the way, and it feels like a long time until you reach that special day. However, during the omer, each day counts, and we are suppose to use each day as a chance to grow. We count up, taking one step, and then two steps and three. On the 48th day we are 48 steps closer toward Shavous.
It's like a student waiting to graduate. They can either count down the days until they're done with school, and feel anxious, and just want to fast forward to that day. Or they can take the opportunity to use this time wisely as they come closer to that day.
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Sunday, July 05, 2009
6 TIPS
The 3 weeks is coming soon, starting on Thursday. I was recently looking at a certain website and it gave some great tips on what we can all work on. I'm writing this in my own words.
update, 7 tips
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Character traits - we can each look inside and think of something to work on and improve on about ourself. By working on this, we become better friends, parents, spouses, neighbors, etc. - I understand how some people feel when it seems like you're the only one doing something. But, I have to come realize that we still need to do it because it's the right thing to do, even if we feel alone in doing it.
Prayer - Learn the meaning of the words so it is more meaningful for you and you have more kavanah. Also, when you have a little time to yourself, either during the day or at night, make a personal prayer and say what is on your mind. This helps with strenghtening our connection to Hashem
Seek, keep searching for and learn Jewish info that will help you to build your knowledge. Then with that knowledge, we can improve our practice.
Emunah - This one is very hard for most of us. But it is important to work on.
- Just like parents who love their children, want what's best for them, so too Hashem wants what is best for us. - And just like children don't always understand their parents, we sometimes are bewildered at the situations that happen to us and wonder why they happen. However, we must understand that everything is for the best. There's this story I read in which this lady was going through a very hard time and she had to take off time from work to recuperate. During those weeks, she spent more time with her family. She writes that eventhough she went through what she did, she's in a better situation now because it helped her with her priorities. Plus, her children are happier with her being there.
Also, remember that if you're worried about something, work on trusting in Hashem that He'll help you through it
Love - This can be either hard or easy, depending on who we are around. Some people are easier to like and some are harder. However, we must remember that we Jews are a family. Eventhough we fight, we still deep down care about each other.
Joy - Do something with joy, whether it is when you light shabbos candles, or say a blessing on food and think about being glad to have it, or some other mitzvah. When you do it with joy, it becomes more meaningful and pleasureble.
Appreciate - Think about the things that you are grateful for. For example, being healthy, having friends, having shelter, nourishment, clothing, etc. I read an article in which someone suggested that couples should have a gratitued notebook. In it they should write what they appreciate about their spouse. By focusing on their love for each other, they strengthen their relationship.
Well I hope this is helpful, have a good week
update, 7 tips
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Character traits - we can each look inside and think of something to work on and improve on about ourself. By working on this, we become better friends, parents, spouses, neighbors, etc. - I understand how some people feel when it seems like you're the only one doing something. But, I have to come realize that we still need to do it because it's the right thing to do, even if we feel alone in doing it.
Prayer - Learn the meaning of the words so it is more meaningful for you and you have more kavanah. Also, when you have a little time to yourself, either during the day or at night, make a personal prayer and say what is on your mind. This helps with strenghtening our connection to Hashem
Seek, keep searching for and learn Jewish info that will help you to build your knowledge. Then with that knowledge, we can improve our practice.
Emunah - This one is very hard for most of us. But it is important to work on.
- Just like parents who love their children, want what's best for them, so too Hashem wants what is best for us. - And just like children don't always understand their parents, we sometimes are bewildered at the situations that happen to us and wonder why they happen. However, we must understand that everything is for the best. There's this story I read in which this lady was going through a very hard time and she had to take off time from work to recuperate. During those weeks, she spent more time with her family. She writes that eventhough she went through what she did, she's in a better situation now because it helped her with her priorities. Plus, her children are happier with her being there.
Also, remember that if you're worried about something, work on trusting in Hashem that He'll help you through it
Love - This can be either hard or easy, depending on who we are around. Some people are easier to like and some are harder. However, we must remember that we Jews are a family. Eventhough we fight, we still deep down care about each other.
Joy - Do something with joy, whether it is when you light shabbos candles, or say a blessing on food and think about being glad to have it, or some other mitzvah. When you do it with joy, it becomes more meaningful and pleasureble.
Appreciate - Think about the things that you are grateful for. For example, being healthy, having friends, having shelter, nourishment, clothing, etc. I read an article in which someone suggested that couples should have a gratitued notebook. In it they should write what they appreciate about their spouse. By focusing on their love for each other, they strengthen their relationship.
Well I hope this is helpful, have a good week
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Balance between the two
A long while ago, I had a discussion with someone about which approach is better when teaching others about shmiras halashon. I mentioned that people don't realize the consequences of L'H.
They replied that a better way is to mention the positive outcome of guarding our tounges like keeping a relationship intact.
I think that we should instill both approachs. The positive one motivates us to be considerate of friends, co-workers, family. Plus there is the incentive of blessings if we guard our words.
While nice incentives motivate us, what is to keep us from a huge temptation? For ex. sitting with friends and speaking and listening about somthing really interesting. - What stops us is the thought of the impact this activity can have. - It might seem at first like, "Eh, we're just talking, nothing's going to happen." But when you think about it, anything could happen, like simply one friend being upset at another friend because of a rumor that spread. But even if nothing happens, there's still consequences in the next world.
Of course, there are times when we need to say something about someone in order to protect people . That's why it's good to learn the rules of how to say it for a contructive purpose.
To sum up, we should teach both the positive things of guarding our tounge, and the consequences of not doing so.
They replied that a better way is to mention the positive outcome of guarding our tounges like keeping a relationship intact.
I think that we should instill both approachs. The positive one motivates us to be considerate of friends, co-workers, family. Plus there is the incentive of blessings if we guard our words.
While nice incentives motivate us, what is to keep us from a huge temptation? For ex. sitting with friends and speaking and listening about somthing really interesting. - What stops us is the thought of the impact this activity can have. - It might seem at first like, "Eh, we're just talking, nothing's going to happen." But when you think about it, anything could happen, like simply one friend being upset at another friend because of a rumor that spread. But even if nothing happens, there's still consequences in the next world.
Of course, there are times when we need to say something about someone in order to protect people . That's why it's good to learn the rules of how to say it for a contructive purpose.
To sum up, we should teach both the positive things of guarding our tounge, and the consequences of not doing so.
Monday, May 25, 2009
Return
The message thoughout
the world is clear.
Return to Me
Our Father is calling
out to us
Lets look inside our soul
and see what needs
improvement
And trust that
No matter what happens,
Hashem is with us
Everything is for
Our benefit
the world is clear.
Return to Me
Our Father is calling
out to us
Lets look inside our soul
and see what needs
improvement
And trust that
No matter what happens,
Hashem is with us
Everything is for
Our benefit
Monday, January 14, 2008
something to ponder
Sometimes people want something without negative side effects. However, the side effects do occur, and so the person has to choose and weigh the pros and cons.
For example, people in general want to dress and act how they want. But sometimes this results in loss of respect and dignity. And so we need to choose.
Here's something that's common. On a certain you tube video that I saw, a lady was dressed provocatively and singing provocatively, and then a commenter made a very inappropriate comment towards her. Of course, it doesn't happen all the time to people, just sometimes. But still, we need to think to ourselves, how do we want to be seen? As objects or as people? It's nice to do what we want and have fun, but not at the expense of our respect and dignity.
However, it's Not an all or nothing thing. I also saw a video where a lady was dressed modestly and singing beautifully.
Of course, there might be a situation where a person does her part to be modest and someone still says something rude to her. In that case though, maybe the guy has issues, in which she should stay away from that person.
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When we dress and act modestly, people concentrate on us and our inner beauty. We are people and deserve to be seen that way.
Here's a good article by Wendy Shalit on the topic.
click here
For example, people in general want to dress and act how they want. But sometimes this results in loss of respect and dignity. And so we need to choose.
Here's something that's common. On a certain you tube video that I saw, a lady was dressed provocatively and singing provocatively, and then a commenter made a very inappropriate comment towards her. Of course, it doesn't happen all the time to people, just sometimes. But still, we need to think to ourselves, how do we want to be seen? As objects or as people? It's nice to do what we want and have fun, but not at the expense of our respect and dignity.
However, it's Not an all or nothing thing. I also saw a video where a lady was dressed modestly and singing beautifully.
Of course, there might be a situation where a person does her part to be modest and someone still says something rude to her. In that case though, maybe the guy has issues, in which she should stay away from that person.
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When we dress and act modestly, people concentrate on us and our inner beauty. We are people and deserve to be seen that way.
Here's a good article by Wendy Shalit on the topic.
click here
Wednesday, May 31, 2006
Going up
Eh, I decided to save my break for another time so I can share with you something that I wrote for Shavuos.
Going Up
Looking up and looking all around
He is everywhere.
Larger than life
And encompassing the universe.
We walk around as days go by
Not noticing until later a certain need.
What is it?
We search and search
And finally find it.
Our neshama is crying out to be
Connected to Him.
The week ends and Shabbos comes.
We pray, reaching up
To that world that's beyond.
And gather at home with
Family and friends.
Our neshama says,
"Now that's what I'm talking about!"
Our journey continues
As we go further.
Choosing to learn and practice about
Guarding our tounge from gossip.
It is so challenging, yet so
Internally rewarding.
And our journey keeps continuing
As we go up the ladder of life.
Thank you Hashem for the Torah
That's helps us connect to you.
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Here's some good info
For Jews
And
For Non Jews
Going Up
Looking up and looking all around
He is everywhere.
Larger than life
And encompassing the universe.
We walk around as days go by
Not noticing until later a certain need.
What is it?
We search and search
And finally find it.
Our neshama is crying out to be
Connected to Him.
The week ends and Shabbos comes.
We pray, reaching up
To that world that's beyond.
And gather at home with
Family and friends.
Our neshama says,
"Now that's what I'm talking about!"
Our journey continues
As we go further.
Choosing to learn and practice about
Guarding our tounge from gossip.
It is so challenging, yet so
Internally rewarding.
And our journey keeps continuing
As we go up the ladder of life.
Thank you Hashem for the Torah
That's helps us connect to you.
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Here's some good info
For Jews
And
For Non Jews
Thursday, August 11, 2005
We need to practice shemiras haloshon
Our words can be used for good or for bad. When used improperly, they become weapons that harm. Even things that seem small, could still have an effect. We don't realize the power and conseqence our words have. And when we are not cautious with our words, we don't just hurt the subject, we also hurt the listener(b/c we're causing them to sin by listening) and ourself(b/c we bring bad things on ourself when we speak badly).
There are times when we need to say something though, and so when that happens, we have to follow the guildlines of toeles. And we can't do that if we don't know what the guidelines are. And so we need to try and get a hold of this information, in case we need to say something about someone, we can do it without doing an aveira.
Here's a couple of options
http://www.artscroll.com/Books/ladh.html
or subscribe for free emails at
alessonaday@chofetzchaimusa.org
and put in the subject box, 'subscribe'
Think of the impact that our tefillos would have if they were not constently blocked by our loshon hara.
There are times when we need to say something though, and so when that happens, we have to follow the guildlines of toeles. And we can't do that if we don't know what the guidelines are. And so we need to try and get a hold of this information, in case we need to say something about someone, we can do it without doing an aveira.
Here's a couple of options
http://www.artscroll.com/Books/ladh.html
or subscribe for free emails at
alessonaday@chofetzchaimusa.org
and put in the subject box, 'subscribe'
Think of the impact that our tefillos would have if they were not constently blocked by our loshon hara.
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