In life, we can either let our experiences make us bitter, or we can channel that feeling towards being a good example in order to improve things.


Monday, January 02, 2006


We all want to be strong both physically and mentally.

What do we do for the first one? We exercise and use weights to be fit and build muscles. But what do we do for the second one?

Lets take character traits for example. It's so easy for us to get angry and annoyed at others. I remember when I was on the phone and someone accused me of copying what they said when I was really just saying something simular that happened to me. Well it annoyed me that they would accuse me of copying just because of a past experience they had. And so I got upset with them which wasn't the smartest thing because I should have just explained myself calmly.

We all know that we shouldn't get upset and blow up but we do it anyway because it's really hard to stop when we are all heated up. It's like it takes over and you're not yourself anymore. Fortunately though, we have free will and can choose to improve ourself. This is the path that leads to strength. And this is how we do it: first we make a goal and decide in our mind that we are going to work on this trait. Then when the challenge presents itself, we put it into action and try to control ourself.

Of course, this is easier said than done. But if we really want to and keep trying, then we can succeed.

By the way, I've been working on this and the person I was talking on the phone with, really appreciates it. :)


A Frum Idealist said...

we must always strive to be better. a day without growth is a day that we take a step backwards

Holeches Levadi said...

Much hatzlacha...

Pragmatician said...

Pirkei Avos 4th chapter mishnah 1 "Who is strong? He who conquers his evil inclination".
This means one who can controle his urges.
You just copied the Pikei Avos!

Datingmaster, Jerusalem said...

we all work on self discipline

Semgirl said...

Thats why R Y Salanter said that its far easier to learn the entire Torah than to correct one bad midda..

Masmida said...

What's the yetzer ha'ra.

the one who yetzer=forms/molds everything into the negative form.

kol ha'kavod for destroying those negative forms in your mind

RBR said...

It.s funny that you gave that particular example. I often find myself saying things in the heat of the moment and regreting them later.Anger is a really hard trait to overcome

Eshet Chayil said...

I am SO with you on this post. Recently I snapped on someone for the first time in blog world. I doubt it'll be the last...although I need to think about that, maybe. I too just wrote a post about something similar. Seems we're on the same wavelength.

Lvnsm27 said...

Afi- I agree.

HL- thanks

Prag- haha :) cute. That is the line though that inspired me to write this.

DJ- that's true but sometimes we need reminders.

Semgirl- that's interesting.

Masmida- thanks

Rbr- yeah it is. I think that we should all remember that eventhough it's hard, every effort counts.

EC- wow, yeah.

FrumGirl said...

I think it is amazing that you want to grow.

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Datingmaster, Jerusalem said...

we must try and control our actions -not easy but possible

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