In life, we can either let our experiences make us bitter, or we can channel that feeling towards being a good example in order to improve things.



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Wednesday, February 28, 2007

But on the other hand, lets enjoy it

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I understand how people feel. Nowadays, purim is probably more wild because some drink more than is required and then make others annoyed with their behavior. Or maybe someone gets sick from having too much. - Eventhough it's a mitzvah to drink on this day, the problem comes when people drink too much and act too wild and don't focus enough on the message of purim and making the day meaningful. Me personally, I like to see people acting silly but in a good controlled way that makes the day more interesting and joyful.

What helps to enjoy the day is to concentrate on why we are celebrating. We are celebrating because we were almost annihilated by Haman in Persia but we survived. We prayed and fasted and G-d turned around the bad decree. That's why we celebrate. Like some of you probably heard before, G-d is not mentioned in the story but He was there guiding Mordechai and Esther and helping them to save the Jewish people. This story gives us a good lesson about hidden miracles and that He is always there with us even when we don't see Him.
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True, some people might not behave like they should, but we shouldn't let them ruin it for us. And we should still have a good time. I think what we should do is try to be a good example for others to follow.

May we have an enjoyable and meaningful purim
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funny purim post coming soon

12 comments:

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

Amen, I love silliness it saves me sometimes. We need humor to live.

jewmaican20 said...

On that note, I'd like to add two things:
First, the Gemara says "K'Shem shemishenichnas Av, mimaatin b'simcha, mishenichnas Adar marbin b'simcha" Just like when Av comes around, we lessen our simcha, when Adar comes around, we increase the simcha. Besides for the obvious reason, why are these two times juxtaposed? In order to teach you that just like by Av, there is no silly lightheartedness, so too, in Adar, a time of great joy, there also shouldn't be lightheadedness. Simcha and being totally out of control don't go together.
Second, it says "chayiv inish l'besumin b'Purya" which is loosely translated as "a man is obligated to drink on Purim" Someone told me a good one a few years ago, that "l'besumin" is a play on words, alluding to "besamim", meaning that if when one drinks, he smells nice -that is, he's pleasant, and joyful, and not annoying - then by all means, drink, and drink a lot. But, if a guy drinks, and he becomes totally obnoxious, totally lewd and crude? He doesn't 'smell nice'? He has no business drinking...
Be safe everyone...

Pragmatician said...

I agree, you don't need to be drunk to feel joyous and merry on Purilm.
On the contrary drunken happiness is fake.

The Dreamer said...

Really true.
Your day will be what you make of it.

Jewmaican - i like what you rote.
Thanks.

Eugene Gershin said...

Hi! Please grab anti-Olmert's Purim buttons from http://samsonblinded.org/blog/purim_banners.htm
The buttons are free and could be hotlinked. Let's make some fun of Olmert!

Lvnsm27 said...

Socialworker, I agree we deffinatly need humor in life.

Jewmaican20, thanks for sharing. That's an excellent point.

Prag, yep we can be drunk on happiness without being drunk on wine

Dreamer, that's how I feel. Purim can be great if we set our mind to enjoy it.

Eugene, lol

Ezzie said...

Good post, and amen.

nuch a chosid said...

SENSIBLE WORDS

I GUESS SOME PEOPLE SHOW THEIR TRUE COLORS... AND IT AINT A BEAUTY

BUT OTHERS REALY COME OUT NICE DANCING LEBEDIG SAYING TOREHLECH AND SHOWING THEIR LOVE TO HASHEM FELLOW YIDDEN AND-OR THEIR WIVES

THATS NOT TOO BAD

Lvnsm27 said...

Ezzie, thanks

Nuch, yep I agree. Some people do things right and that's what people should remember to help them have a good time.

jewmaican20 said...

Prag, I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with the last statement you made. Drunken happiness isn't necessarily fake; if it was, there wouldn't be a mitzvah to drink in the first place. It is a question of maturity and restraint though.
I know people ( including, in recent years, myself [I strive to be like that, anyway] )who don't need controlled substances to get them "high"; they get high on life, or God, or whatever floats their boat. When Purim rolls around though, they pull all the stops out and get pretty wasted. Still, they never lose control of themselves (which is a myth, anyway. There's no such thing. If you want to be in control, you'll BE in control...), and as a matter of fact, are a pleasure to be around on Purim....
When those fellas are drunk, they're happy, and it's real...

Independent Frum Thinker said...

Nice post!

Lvnsm27 said...

Jewmaican, great point

IFT, thanks