In life, we can either let our experiences make us bitter, or we can channel that feeling towards being a good example in order to improve things.



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Wednesday, January 17, 2007

my goal



Sometimes, we pray and pray for something but don't get what we are asking for.

For instance, I had a certain small goal for myself that I felt would help me out a lot and so I prayed and put alot of effort into getting it. Well I didn't succeed and felt awful. I was almost there at reaching my goal and I failed. Plus, I was worried that it would take a while to get back and start again. Fortunately, it didn't take as longed as I feared to start again. I thank G-d for that. I guess it just wasn't the right time. But, B'H, I can start right away to try again.



24 comments:

Anonymous said...

this really speaks to me.
It reminds me of the old proverb, if you fall off your horse, Jump right back on it.

Lvnsm27 said...

Yep, it's the only way to get anywhere.

Btw Prag, don't know why it shows you as anon. good thing I saw your comment before I switched.

Jewish Smörgåsbord said...

Good luck in getting what you really want!

Lvnsm27 said...

thanks

nuch a chosid said...

My mom always repeets this one "if life gives you lemons, make lemondae" never give up!!!!

I once sew a bumper sticker, on a 'goys' car, I GAVE UP SMOKING DRUGS AND SEX, THEN I DIED

we can take a lesson of everything we see, so I can twist this message to a positive point, if u give up, u are done - over - finish

so do not give up! no matter what, there is allways a tommorow!!!

and dont forget to ask hashem for his help!

meg white said...

my friend Irene used to say to me all the time "It's a good thing I didn't get what I wanted so I could get something better." That really requires the longview which is hard for me as I'm wired for instand gratification but our perspectives are so limited on this stuff. I hope you find joy soon in something infinitely better.

Lvnsm27 said...

Nuch, totally, always another day

Meg, excellent point

Pragmatician said...

It's weird ,you probbaly would have guessed it was me anyway, who else is always reminded of something after redaing a post:)

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

Don't feel bad you tried and that's what counts.

kasamba said...

Chazal say 'kol Hatcholos Kashos' all beginnings are difficult. May Hashem make it easier for you!

Lvnsm27 said...

Prag, true lol

Social, thanks

Kasamba, also thanks

meg white said...

Ahhh, if applying(sp?) this principle to my own life were as easy as seeing how true it really is for others.

Favorite Lao Tzu line - "compassionate toward the self we reconcile all beings in the world."

knaidel maidel said...

Meg- I like that.
Lvn (what is with your name?!)-- Your attitude is healthy. If you've been praying and involving G-d in your efforts, then when you don't reach your goal, you don't have to view it as a personal failure but as a different kind of answer from Him. "Not now." People who go it alone also fail alone, and feel that it's their deficiency that caused it. We are so lucky to have G-d in every part of our lives.

Lvnsm27 said...

Meg, that's true, applying the principle of seeing it as for the best is hard but do-able.

Knaidel, lol, Lvnsm means live and smile. And 27 is a number I like.
That's true about the answer being 'not now.' I guess it wasn't meant to be. I just feel like saying then when?
And yes, I agree and feel fortunate that I'm not alone and have Him in my life to turn to

jewmaican20 said...

That's hard to take sometimes, when you feel like you're really striving for something, and then it doesn't go the way we expect/want/hope.
But keep at it! You got to realize not to let a temporary - and it temporary - setback get you vexed. The sages teach that a tzaddik is someone who falls seven times and continues to get back up. Keep that in mind, and you'll be successful...

Lvnsm27 said...

Thanks, you're right, it is only a temporary setback.

frumsatire said...

I recently received some hate mail from someone whom I know. I emailed him back and figured I would mess around with him a bit until he figured out who I was. He was shocked and pleasantly suprised at the same time. He said he appreciates my writings much more now that he knows whos behind it.

I felt like yosef when he told the brothers who he was.

meg white said...

You okay?

Lvnsm27 said...

FS, interesting :)

Meg, yea just don't have much to say now. but hopefully I'll think of something good to write soon

meg white said...

Oh good. Glad that's all - sometimes when I pray and work for something and it doesn't happen, I'm okay at first and then later I get really bummed. This is okay as long and I stick keep working my little program.

Sara with NO H said...

If we all depended on prayer, nothing would get done. Prayer is a push. Prayer is hope, but we can't always get what we want...Hashem has his reasons for not answering everything right away. Maybe your prayer was answered in another sense...I wish you happiness LVN. Hugs from over here.

Lvnsm27 said...

Meg, there you go

Sara, true we need both prayer and effort. I did both but didn't get exactly what I was hoping for. However, I agree that it's for the best. You're right about it being answered in another scene, He helped me to get back up again quickly. Slowly but surely I'm getting there, BH.

Jessica said...

Hi! it's been awhile.
and as a fish i know likes to say, just keep swimming...(and I'll add: davening)

Lvnsm27 said...

welcome back